To learn more about your Myers-Briggs personality and your spouse’s, and the natural differences between your two personalities, you can email David or Cindy -OR- go to Personality Pages: The Personality Type Portraits.
Have some of your actions been “extinguishing” the love flame in your marriage? Take this Love Extinguishers Questionnaire and try to answer as your spouse would, or even better yet–you and your spouse both take it and share your answers with each other:
Back in the day, you and your spouse were drawn together like magnets! Some of HIS actions and character traits were attractive to HER…and likewise some of HER actions and character traits were attractive to HIM. Find out which actions and which traits really kindle your spouse’s love flame and really turn it into a blaze of passion! Take this Love Kindlers Questionnaire and try to answer as your spouse would, or even better yet–you and your spouse both take it and share your answers with each other:
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), was developed by Dr.Albert Ellis in 1955.
REBT is based on a few simple principles having profound implications:
- You are responsible for your own emotions and actions,
- Your harmful emotions and dysfunctional behaviors are the product of your irrational thinking,
- You can learn more realistic views and, with practice, make them a part of you,
- You’ll experience a deeper acceptance of yourself and greater satisfactions in life by developing
a reality-based perspective.
As you can see, REBT will appeal to you if you relish quickly taking control of your own life, rather than remaining dependent upon a therapist for years. We do not have a “quiz” for REBT, but here is a table to walk you through it:
Here is a link to learn more about REBT:
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT)
Here is an REBT chart:
Here is Worksheet #1 to just go through ABC(DE):
And here is Worksheet #2 you can download to walk you through step-by-step:
Finally, here’s the link to Affaircare’s REBT Examples page:
Affaircare’s REBT Examples page
“Just Friends” or Infidelity?
Has your friendship crossed the line? Sure, it’s easy to make excuses and deny what’s happening by telling ourselves, “It’s just innocent flirting,” or “We’re only Facebook friends,” or“I’m just texting with a co-worker, that’s all!” How can you be sure that what you’re doing is really innocent and harmless, or if you’re slipping down the slippery slope toward an emotional affair?
This confidential online 75-question assessment will provide a comprehensive review of the important areas of your relationship along with general recommendations for discussion and goal-setting with your partner.
Discover what your heart is trying to tell you. Learn your marriage mindset and see how it fits with your partner’s. Find out if you’re a Rational Heart, Restless Heart, Resolute Heart, Romantic Heart or Reluctant Heart, and see what it means for your relationship.
Relationships take hard work, but can be the most rewarding thing in the world. By doing a small (or large) romantic gesture each day for 30 days you show your spouse just how much they mean to you and take your marriage to the next level!
Join the 30 Days to Fall in Love Challenge!
Are you a controlling spouse? Think you might be but you’re unsure? There are so many people who are controlling in their relationships who either don’t recognize it or don’t want to admit it to themselves.
If you think you MAY be a controlling spouse, please use our “Stop Being a Controller” Checklist to see how many controlling characteristics YOU can check off:
Are you a victim of domestic violence? Think you might be but you’re unsure? There are so many people who are involved in domestically violent relationships–men and women–who either don’t recognize it or don’t want to admit it to themselves. When a woman tries to hit a man or slaps him…that it domestic violence! And yet many/most men wouldn’t think of that. We all know when man *hits* a woman it’s domestic violence, but that’s only physical violence. Did you know there’s also verbal abuse, mental abuse, and emotional abuse? And abuse of ANY kind can leave lifelong scars–whether is physical or emotional abuse, whether it’s a male or a female.
If you think your partner MAY be abusing you, please take this Domestic Violence Screening Test:
Some psychological tests:
Here are some useful online psychological screening tests. Most are short and all are immediately scored. Registered HealthyPlace.com members can also save the scores to their profile to help track progress over time.