If you are a believer, we have been given God’s thoughts in the Bible. But does He tell us how to end an affair? What if you suspect your spouse is physically or emotionally unfaithful, what do you do? Here are the biblical steps you can take to End an Affair.
First, do not despair! There is hope! An affair does not have to mean the end of your marriage. In fact, consider this:
- Approximately 20% of affairs last less than two months
- Approximately 50% of affairs last more than one month, but less than a year.
- The remaining 30% last more than a year
- Very few last more than four years
- Around 3% result in marriage
There are specific steps you can take if you have reason to believe your spouse may be unfaithful. There is no guarantee, but these steps will give you the best opportunity to recover after the affair ends. These steps make the assumption that both of you have, at minimum, professed that you’re a Christian.
Step 1) Find out the TRUTH!
It is very typical for the disloyal spouse to deny they are having an affair. Even if you walk in and catch them “in the act.” they might say “It’s not what it looks like!” So this step is not intended to make the disloyal spouse confess. This step is for the loyal spouse to ascertain if something REALLY IS going on.
One word of caution: accusing someone of a sin is serious business, so be sure keep an open mind. Be sure that you pursue discovering THE TRUTH and not some pre-decided agenda. Make sure you gather proof–evidence–to either prove or disprove that your spouse is cheating.
It is illegal to tape someone without their knowledge in some states, so check your state’s laws on electronic surveillance. High tech surveillance is not your only option. You can also find Low Tech evidence.
The one exception morally allowed for divorce is infidelity. From this point