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October 28, 2012 by 4 Comments

Is it ethical to spy on your spouse to find out if they are cheat?

Explain why or why not.

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4 thoughts on “Question of the Week: Oct. 28-Nov. 3”

  1. WriterlyOne
    October 28, 2012 at 6:23 PM

    Absolutely! I think you have to do what you must to discover the truth. I’ve spied, and it confirmed my suspicions. You could go crazy listening to lies but never knowing the truth.

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  2. starlitwishes
    October 28, 2012 at 8:11 PM

    Hmm, well I’m not married or in a relationship, but ‘spying’ just makes me uncomfortable. I’ve heard about people finding out about their partner cheating on them through Facebook, or text messages. I would like to think there are signs that your significant other is cheating on you, and it is probably healthier to just confront her or him about it than going behind their back. BUT, that being said, not everyone is honest, and even if they are, and you are wrong (i.e. he or she is not cheating) maybe it’ll make things worse. Though I would value being asked, than being ‘spied’ on. Just my 2 cents. 🙂

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  3. Greg
    October 29, 2012 at 2:58 AM

    ethical? No But necessary most of the time.

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  4. R
    October 29, 2012 at 8:05 AM

    I don’t know that ethics have anything to do with it. My husband was not ethical or honest in his interaction w/OW. I spied, I continue to ‘spy’ and I feel no guilt. None. Absolutely no guilt attached to checking. I will not be made a fool of twice. Maybe someday (years) down the road, I will trust; but for now I check. Also, this strikes a chord with me that the faithful person in the relationship is to blindly trust again. While I am not blameless, I take issue with the idea that it is unethical to check up on someone who cheated on you. I would expect nothing less had I been the one cheating.

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