“Behold you are handsome, my beloved! Yes, pleasant!…” Song of Solomon 1:16a
We all crave appreciation. We want to know that we are valued and loved. Early love letters probably reflected our admiration, but if we’re not careful, our spouse will forget why we were drawn to him. If you still have any of your old love letters, re-read them for clues to deepen your current level of appreciation for your spouse.
When we spend time criticizing our husbands, we lose time that could be spent
admiring them. As you consider various ways to encourage your husband, ask, “How can I admire him?”
Does your husband know that you think he is attractive? What was one of the
characteristics in your husband that first drew you to him? Was it a physical
characteristic, or something else?
Was it his gentle, compassionate eyes? Kindness or concern for others? An easy-going confidence? A steadiness that comes from trusting in the Lord? Strength of character in a culture that lacks integrity? Do you see at least a glimpse of that characteristic in him today? Whatever it is, tell him!
By Nancy Leigh DeMoss
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Oh today’s challenge should be FUN! We all long to be attractive to our mate–to have the one we love look at us physically and think, “YUM I have to get me some of that action!” And yet when we live with each other, day-in and day-out it is easy to get caught up in the bills, kids, and daily worries and forget to say out loud that his eyes still melt you…and those muscles in his arms!
So today, the challenge is to say it. Out loud. If you married him when he had a full head of hair and that’s starting to thin a little, he may be worried. So tell him that bald men turn you on! Some of the sexiest men are bald: Michael Jordan, Yul Brynner, Vin Diesel, Bruce Willis, Samuel Jackson, and Patrick Stewart (aka Jean Luc Picard) are stunning…and bald. Maybe he’s not as thin as he used to be. Maybe he is starting to get grey hair or a wrinkle. Whatever it is, let him know today the physical attributes about him that just curl your toes. It’s his smile, isn’t it? That smile is worth a thousand little wrinkles!
But beyond his physical attributes, are there qualities about him that attract you such as his sense of humor? His kindness? His easy-going attitude that never seems ruffled no matter what? His love of music? His geekiness? What is it about him that drew you to him like a magnet “back in the day” and stills pulls at your heart? What personality traits and characteristics captivate you and pique your interest? Today…tell him.
- Sexual Theology (mclwilliams.wordpress.com)