It’s Day Four of our Husband Encouragement Challenge, and today’s challenge is all about your husband and his career:
“…let him labor, working with his hands what is good…” Eph. 4:28
We are all accountable for the things we say, both negative and positive words. Have you embraced the challenge to speak only positive things to your husband and to others about him? Here’s a suggestion that touches the core of your husband’s world. Some women take their husband’s career for granted, and they show it in many ways. Do you “dump” on your husband at the end of the workday, or do you strengthen and encourage him with your words? A wise wife will make her husband feel that she values and appreciates his work. Let him know that you are glad he is a hard worker. Take opportunities to praise his diligence and resourcefulness to others. If your husband is out of work, unable to work, or refuses to work, you’ll need to be more creative. Praise him for a character quality that you see in him that would be a vital part of a successful career – such as persistence, decisiveness, strength, an analytical mind, organizational skills, good with people, good listener, determination, etc.
By Nancy Leigh DeMoss
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To refresh your memory…here’s the 30-Day Encouragement Challenge…for the next 30 days:
* You can’t say anything negative about your husband …to your husband…or to anyone else, about your husband.
* Say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband…to your husband…and to someone else, about your husband!
Today’s challenge specifically faces one of the biggest challenges faced by married couples: work. So often I hear wives say “All he ever does is work!” and husbands say “She wanted a new car and new clothes from the department store and this and that for the kids–the only way I could get those things for her was to work longer hours!” So today’s challenge is not just about saying “Oh honey thank you for working so hard. ” Today’s challenge is about looking into your own heart and asking yourself if you are grateful for the way another human being has worked to make your comfort and your desires a priority.
If you want him to work less, do you welcome him home and make home a place that he would prefer to be rather than the office? Is home a haven for him–a place to relax and recharge? Or is he grilled the moment he steps through the door? If you’ve had a rough day do you dump your troubles on him and expect him to care about YOUR day without caring about his? If you want him to work less, are you willing to give up the Nordstrom clothes and trips, and instead delight in Target and camping with more time together?
On the other hand, if your husband works hard and is a professional at what he does–whether that’s a bread-truck driver or a CEO–are you grateful for the characteristics that make him a good worker? Diligence? Self-control? Organization? Do you look at the possessions you have in your home with gratitude and realize that someone else’s labor was given for you to enjoy these things? Is your life easier, better, and more comfortable because you do not have to worry where the next meal is coming from or where you and your children will sleep tonight?
It’s the other side of the coin. His work is often his way of saying, “I care about you so much that I’m willing to tire myself to make your life easier.” If that is your husband, oh my goodness learn to be grateful for his efforts and thank him today.
- LOVE AND RESPECT – Emerson Eggerichs (2004) (baldreformer.wordpress.com)
- Is It Cheating to Have a “Work Husband? (relationshipvoice.wordpress.com)
- Does a Busier Job Make for a Happier Marriage? (abcnews.go.com)
- My husband’s job? Well, um… (macleans.ca)