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December 14, 2009 by 2 Comments

When you’ve been married a year or two like I have you’ll start to realize that one of the most important things about your spouse is not always the romance or the steamy lovemaking…but that your spouse is your best friend, who knows you more intimately than anyone else on the planet and oddly they still decide to stay with you!

At this time of year, when so many people are talking about giving this gift and that gift to your spouse for the holidays–everything from this possession to that sexual act :0 –may I suggest one gift that will last you a lifetime, lower your blood pressure and be better than any medicine over the long run? LAUGH! Laugh together; laugh with each other; laugh AT each other (in a lighthearted way); and be silly! Come on people, life just is not all that serious.

This morning my dear hubby was just waking up and came over by me to give me a good morning kiss. He tried to pick up his coffee cup, but being half asleep, it leapt from his hands and clattered all over my desk. After two seconds of “that horrified face” we realized it was empty and no harm was done… and we feel into each other and burst out laughing. That has lead to a whole day of joking, kidding around, and sneaking up on each other–not to mention unending comments about “dropsy”! 😛

My point is that in life we are often faced with a moment that is a turning point. Maybe our spouse did something surprising, or made a mistake, or outright did something wrong–and we have the chance to choose to be a critic and make them feel worse -OR- to laugh, make life fun and easy, don’t be so serious, have a sense of humor, and let them know that they’re safe. Sometimes it’s not a mistake at all…they meant to surprise us or they said something really funny. LAUGH!! Don’t lightly giggle and blush–roll on the floor and double over, laughing until your sides hurt and your mouth aches.

Likewise, don’t be a stick in the mud. Be funny. Play little practical jokes that might make your spouse laugh. Tease each other. Run around the house chasing each other and squeeling with laughter–and yes even if you’re in your fifties RUN (in that slower William Shatner jog-run). Tickle each other or find a new ticklish spot…that’s always a fun hunt! Tell jokes. Be light hearted

Especially at this time, when there seems to be so much pressure to get to the mall, get the perfect gift, get to all the school plays, get the presents in the mail, get the tree up, get the house decorated, get the menu planned, get the family invitations, get to the Nutcracker or Messiah, and all those other holiday stresses…stop. Laugh. Smear your lipstick? Laugh about it. Mess up your hair? Mess his or hers back! It is the best gift you can give yourself and your spouse–a fun marriage.

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2 thoughts on “The Best Gift: Laughter!”

  1. Active Leisure
    December 15, 2009 at 6:30 PM

    I could not agree with you more! Laughter is part of the foundation of my marriage! Without it my dear hubby would never allow me to share the comedy that is our marriage in my blog The Hubby Diaries We have found way to laugh at ourselves, to laugh at each other and to laugh together. Sometimes being able to view the challenges of every day life in a lighthearted way makes it easier to work together to make it through not just the good times but the difficult times too!

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  2. Cindy J. Taylor
    December 30, 2009 at 3:20 PM

    Thanks for your comment, Active Leisure. I have to admit, I love the satire on your blog, and I love the way you laugh at those funny, every-day things we all live with in a marriage. We have often found that when things seem the darkest or life is stressing us out, that’s exactly the time when we need to watch some “Monty Python” or a John Candy movie. Seriously, one sitting of “Tommy Boy” serves to remind that if our car isn’t burnt up in the middle of nowhere, we’re okay. 😛

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