Question of the Week: 8/26 – 9/1:

What did you do to cope with the shock when you found out your spouse was cheating on you?

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  1. After the first DDay I went into immediate action. Got books, got us into therapy, we sent a NC letter, and then I crashed. Went through the whole self esteem fall out, we fought a lot (he was undiagnosed bipolar too at the time). And I just basically broke. There was a LOT of trickle truth and every few days or weeks I was finding new information. It was brutal. Then the porn discoveries.

    The latest DDay (2 more previous partners that I found out about) I knew what ti expect. And I have a year of therapy under my belt. I did feel anger and rage. I did have one day of anger acting out (I burned some of his clothing in the driveway) but then that was it. He finally admitted and realized he was a true sex addict (he was fired from his job too for sexual harassment) and is now in the early stages of recovery.

    We started going to church again and they were doing a serious on marriage. And that first sunday there was a phrase I’ve latched on to, “Wives, tread your husbands with respect and grace, even if they don’t deserve it. Husbands, treat your wives with love and honor even if they don’t deserve it.”

    I’ve begun going to S-Anon, we communicate, as much as possible and we’re continuing therapy. I hurt, I ache, I really really hate that I have to go through this again. But, I love my husband, we have a family, and I will try anything to try and save us.

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