“You will show me the path of life. In your presence is fullness of joy…Happy are the people whose God is the LORD!” Ps. 16:11a; 144:15b
“A merry heart does good like medicine…” Prov. 17:22a
It’s hard to criticize others when we are enjoying their company. Instead of speaking negatively to your husband today, enjoy him! Encourage him! As you experience fullness of joy with God, share some of that joy with your husband.
Does your husband have a playful side? A great sense of humor? Is there a “little boy” that wants to escape from time to time, reflecting the joy in his heart?
This is a wonderful part of who he is, and a great strength. Let him know that you
appreciate his joyfulness and his playful spirit. Find opportunities to join him in positive play times.
If your husband can sometimes be overly serious, coax him out occasionally for some play times. It will help him relieve stress and relax.
By Nancy Leigh DeMoss
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Having a sense of humor is so important in a long-term relationship, and considering that marriage is for the rest of your life–it’s time to let our hair down and laugh! No I’m not joking! How often do we take life’s moments–that are wonderful, precious and FUNNY–and turn them into “serious issues”? How often has your husband wanted to play–be silly–joke around–have fun and you’ve been the downer responsible one and made him talk about bills. BLECH!
If you have a husband who works hard and provides for the family, but has a silly sense of humor, the next time he tickles or plays or tells one of those GROOOOANER jokes of his, don’t roll your eyes. Laugh! Let your hair down, kick up your heels a little, and play back with him. Tickle him. Giggle. Play wrestle until you collapse into each others’ arms laughing and then kiss! Or better yet, when the kids say something adorable (but mildly embarrassing) right in front of the pastor or gramma–LAUGH! They are so cute at that age and it is a gift to TREASURE!
If you find that you (or your husband) are just a little too “on the serious side” I suggest that you purposely plan a weekend alone–just the two of you–and go do something fun. Making love all weekend *can* be fun but that’s not what I mean. You know how you always drive by that amusement park and say “Wow I would love to go there but with the kids and appointments blah blah blah?” Yeah–go do THAT. GO to the muscle car show, horse pull, sci-fi convention or weekend doing nothing by the beach that you have always wanted to do! Remind yourselves how fun it is to just hang out and be together…how much you really LIKE each other. Then work on keeping your sense of humor alive when you get back home!
1. Tell jokes about your own self! You are super funny (and looks aren’t everything).
3. Exaggerate problems. I mean turn them into universal chaos and the end of mankind if that song isn’t turned down RIGHT AWAY!
4. Ask people about one funny thing that happened today. Amazingly this will get you thinking about something funny that happened during your day and you’ll be aware of little funny things.
5. Laugh. Every day. Right now. Come one–a real one. Not a slight giggle. If you can’t belly laugh, put on “Naked Gun” or “Airplane” right now!
6. Finally just acknowledge that “Some mornings it just isn’t worth it to gnaw through the leather straps. ” (Thanks Emo for the encouragement!)