You mean I should be thankful for that tinkering in the garage?

It’s Day Six of our Husband Encouragement Challenge, and today’s challenge is all about manly creativity and how sometimes power tools are involved.

DAY SIX

“…whatever ye do, do all to the glory of God.” 1 Cor. 10:31b

Do you recognize and appreciate your husband‘s creativity? Or do you criticize and demean his efforts? Instead of negativity, determine to be positive. Perhaps you can help your husband see that his efforts are an opportunity to glorify God.

Is your husband the “creative” type? Does he have any artistic gifts? What is that special “knack” he has? Affirm him for his handiwork – a hobby, music, gardening, tinkering with cars, working with wood, etc. Remember: Even if he doesn’t measure up to your standards, praise his efforts. If your budget allows, buy him a book or magazine that will continue to encourage his special skill or talent.

If you have a hard time finding his “creative side,” understand that men’s creativity sometimes is related to their work. Find something he does to make his job run more smoothly or something he does that adds value to his work…and let him know that you have noticed.

Make his day…Praise his accomplishments in public, while he is listening.

By Nancy Leigh DeMoss
Published by Revive Our Hearts, © 2005. Permission granted to photocopy in the exact form, including copyright. All other uses require written permission.
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When wives think about creativity, what do we think of?  Knitting or crocheting?  Singing or playing an instrument?  Maybe painting or dancing?  As women our idea of being artistic may even extend into the kitchen and the way we create or serve meals.  But when it comes to our husbands, all too often we fail to notice their manly attempts at ingenuity, or if we do notice it, we belittle the attempt because it doesn’t seem creative to us or it’s not up our standard.

Men can obviously also knit, crochet, sing, play a musical instrument, paint or dance too.  When was the last time your husband tried to dance with you and danced in front of you and you laughed at him?  How about the last time he tried to paint or draw?  Did you encourage the attempt–or tell it was a waste of time because he’s not Picasso?  When your husband makes the effort to try to do something

In addition to the ways we women think of creativity, men also have “Manly Men” ways of expressing inspiration that often we female types just don’t recognize!  For example men often express innovation and originality when they are using power tools.  The way that they build or woodwork is creativity.  Making the car run perfectly is artistry.  Adding a room to the house is a way of increasing the beauty and pleasure of his family via carpentry skill.  Growing fresh vegetables to feed the family or preparing a new recipe with the latest kitchen gadgetry is one method of expressing imagination and talent.  But when was the last time you looked at a perfect, polished carburetor and thought “Wow that is beautiful!” or considered how much automotive mastery that demonstrates?

So to quote Tim, the Toolman Taylor:

  • Al:  Didn’t you study the manual at all?
  • Tim:  A real man doesn’t need a manual.
That’s right–they don’t.  They create it all in their head and then build it.  And today our goal is to praise our husbands for their ingenious, inventive, imaginative side.  Hey honey–that song was BEAUTIFUL!

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